Of course, I think that you would find only some old horny guy, so maybe you should not go there.

I am kidding, of course. This is fascinating.

I quite agree:

“Some guys who blog on this subject do it from the POV of the total submissive – the guy who’s really only in it for Her (or says he is). I’m not that guy.”

For me that is were the question roots. I think it would be much more easy to ge the totally submissive guy…Then there would never be any question of topping from the bottom. Oh Well

Enjoy your vacation I look forward to read more of your story

gat1207

Thanks for finally stepping out from the shadows!

Maybe she rather make Love to you in the sweetest way.

I fully acknowledge the self-centered way I wrote that post. It’s why I called it “I want” because that *is* what I want. What I get will be what she gives me, so we’ll see how well the two align. I certainly won’t be disappointed either way.

Some guys who blog on this subject do it from the POV of the total submissive – the guy who’s really only in it for Her (or says he is). I’m not that guy. I don’t refer to myself as “i” or Belle as “Her” because, as I’ve recently written about, I don’t consider myself to be beneath her. I’ve ceded my half of our sexual partnership so that she’s the dominant partner, but not the *superior* one. I can’t say I understand it all that well yet, but that point alone separates me from lots of other submissive men in the blogosphere.

How much do I really consider her needs? How much power do I really exchange and does she really want my power.

I’ve had that same debate inside my own head (and on this site) for months. I’ve decided it doesn’t matter. I’ve ceded power to her because I like how it makes me feel. She takes it because she likes how it makes her feel. We both get something out of it.

Again, thanks for the comments!

Enjoy your weekend away

Thumper

You note touches in me a battle that rages in me and has for a long time. That battle has been termed “temporary power exchange.” When I lay on my back or kneel before my lover and she knees or kicks me in the nuts until my insides churn am I giving her my power or am I simply topping from the bottom.

“I want”…, and I must say that you have summed it up in this post well, am I really considering what she wants. When I kneel, or rub her back or her feet, when I lay with her and I postpone until I ache and drip, am I really giving her what she wants or am I indulging my own fantasy under the pretense that it is all for her.

How much do I really consider her needs? How much power do I really exchange and does she really want my power. Maybe she wants to intermingle our power. She on top, me on top, shared power for the benefit of our society. The battle rages and I wonder.

It sounds as if you have a wonderful vacation planned. I query whose plan?

With respect
gat1207

You don’t know me but I have been lurking for a while. I enjoy your writings and I am the one in the poll whom you told to comment. So here it is:

“But, when it’s over…I want to fuck and fuck and fuck her in the sweetest way. I want to be in her body like when we first started to date.”

It seems to me that Belle gives you a lot. Maybe she rather make Love to you in the sweetest way. Maybe that would be a greater gift than all of the foot rubs in the world.

gat1207