The interesting part, strictly for the adults, is the D/s dynamic makes it easier for a sub-male to embrace it for the joy it is. He is free to allow himself to experience the romance of it in a way that strictly vanilla guys might consider a little too mushy for a manly man. If you haven’t experienced it for yourself yet, just hang on. Sooner or later you will, and it is wonderful when you do.

I think I’ve been there! I had an overactive romance gland to begin with, though.

I hope this clears things up for everyone.

Very clear.

I fear you have misunderstood me. I agree with you. It would be creepy. More than creepy!

I’m not suggesting that you bring them into the D/s dynamic but rather for you to just embrace the loving relationship of the family (In a non-creepy, non D/s, very vanilla way) and let them be your emotional focus and connection to Belle while she is away.

The last thing I would want is to suggest that anyone use their children (or any children) as some sort of crazy prop for their non-traditional adult lifestyle.

I think we got off on the wrong foot on this one. In my original comment when I said “think of them as Belle’s children” I certainly wasn’t suggesting to do so in the way you think of your bed as “Belle’s bed.” I was intending that they are “of Belle” and could serve to remind you of your happy marriage and lovely family… and here is the single most important key… utterly outside of a sexual context.

You recall that a couple of days ago you were concerned that the sexual energy in your relationship was at an ebb. That is important to the context of my remark. Sometimes the sex drive is perking along and as you noted it powers “the other stuff.” Other times it is at an ebb and you need another form of motivator. That motivator is found in the satisfaction of knowing that you are happy with your wife and your relationship with her and your family and all that it entails. The satisfaction I am referring to isn’t part of the D/s. It is as plain vanilla as it comes.

The interesting part, stricly for the adults, is the D/s dynamic makes it easier for a sub-male to embrace it for the joy it is. He is free to allow himself to experience the romance of it in a way that strictly vanilla guys might consider a little too mushy for a manly man. If you haven’t experienced it for yourself yet, just hang on. Sooner or later you will, and it is wonderful when you do.

OK. Now I have written too much about this… but I don’t want you or Belle or other people to think I am suggesting creepy things. Especially with your children! I’m sorry it got to that. I assure you that you have simply misconstrued my intent.

I hope this clears things up for everyone. Seriously.

BT

When you look into their faces do you see her beauty?
When you work or play with them do you see her mannerisms?
When they laugh or sing do you hear subtle tones of her voice?

Are they not the essence of Belle….
And Thumper….
Together
Inextricably
Forever?

And isn’t that what the Bunny is all about?

1) Guys who blog and don’t comment on feeling low from time to time almost certainly don’t want to let the side down, as it were. They want to have a hot blog going as much as possible. They reflect highlights of their chastity, not a point-by-point journal. There are always exceptions of course. Comparing your experiences too closely to theirs is like trying to compare yourself to guys in porn clips.

2) Sometimes I think you try too hard to over-analyze the moment, instead of enjoy the ride. It’s a common guy thing, and we’re all guilty to one degree or another. But you may not be seeing the forest for the trees. To harken back to an earlier analogy I used, don’t watch the cinematography, watch the movie.

Thanks for the thumbs up

You need that intimacy at the moment, but it is hard to find when your loved one is half a world away…

She’s back Sunday afternoon, so things’ll be looking up soon.

Your sexual tension is at an ebb.

That’s the thing, I feel as though things are getting better. I’m definitely coming out of the hole I was in earlier in the month. I tried to get that across in the second to last paragraph because I felt the tone of the post made it sound like I was still miserable. I’m not.

You are facing a triple threat: Belle’s absence, the sexual ebb, and the missing CB.

True, though I think the likelihood that I’ll be having an unauthorized orgasm is low. The only thing I’ll be tempted to do is play with it. I don’t want to come.

I would suggest replacing that symbol with another 24/7 reminder. Have you got a cock ring?

I had the very same thought. If I don’t think I can go back in to the old clear CB6K tonight, I’ll minimally put on a ring for pure symbolism.

And then go focus on the kids. Try to think of them as Belle’s children. Let them remind you of how much you love her and miss her.

Here’s where you lose me. There’s *no way* I can think of them as “Belle’s children”. I can think of the bed as Belle’s bed and the cock as Belle’s cock, but these are *my* kids, too. There’s really no way I can grok them into our D/s. Simply impossible.

I’m rooting for you to pull through this difficult time with your mojo intact.

Like I said, I think I already have pulled through. Cart upsetting is not on the agenda.

That old post is spot on. There can be enormous fulfillment and contentment in just being together. It is too bad Belle is away. You need that intimacy at the moment, but it is hard to find when your loved one is half a world away…… But pointing that out that isn’t my reason for commenting today.

You are in tough circumstances, Thumper.

Your sexual tension is at an ebb. You can’t enjoy the sweet intimacy of just being with Belle because she isn’t around at the moment. And just when you need it the most both of your chastity devices are letting you down.

We all react to our surroundings depending upon how we perceive them, and that perception is always effected by hidden bits of our subconscious. Right now the “lizard” (to use your terminology) is probably seeing an opportunity to sneak out of his hiding place and take over from the bunny for a bit. That would be a bad thing, but the pressure for him to do so is rapidly building. You are facing a triple threat: Belle’s absence, the sexual ebb, and the missing CB.

Now I’m not saying that anything really awful is about to happen, but there is a growing possibility that you will be severely knocked out of your head space as a sub-male.

Your chastity device serves as a 24/7 reminder of your relationship with Belle. Whether you want to think this way or not, going without it is opening a door to the lizard. I understand that physically you are unable to wear the device at the moment so I would suggest replacing that symbol with another 24/7 reminder. Have you got a cock ring? Or a discrete collar? Sure, those things won’t be secure like a chastity device but could serve to remind you 24/7 that the lizard is not being invited to come out and play.

And then go focus on the kids. Try to think of them as Belle’s children. Let them remind you of how much you love her and miss her. Basically try to displace your current need to be affectionate with Belle onto them for her sake. Do it because making them happy will make Belle happy and that is ultimately what will make you happy.

I’m rooting for you to pull through this difficult time with your mojo intact. You have already seen that the lifestyle can be very rewarding. It would be a shame to “upset the cart” after you have come this far.

BT