Having it molded off the locked-up thumpiecock seems like the nth degree of meanness.

Depends what floats your relationship boat.

It is a great way to relive fluid build up due to orgasm denial, but it’s not milking IMO. Milking to me means what I described in this post. Coaxing the fluid out though prostate massage since penile stimulation is either impossible (as it was with me) or not desired.

Regarding your last question, I’ve never heard of anyone being milked except through the prostate. It’s a combination of the intense feelings as well as manual manipulation of part of the ejaculatory system that makes it work. I doubt you could be milked via your nipples. It might cause you to generate a lot of precum, but that’s not the same thing as being milked.

I have a stupid question, about semen flow vs. ejaculation /orgasm. When people write about “ruined orgasms” they talk about someone who is right on the edge of orgasm, whose semen does flow but no ejaculation. I have also experienced that feeling of a need to pee when edging and if I hold real still, a milky flow of semen dribbles out all by itself. There is no tightening of the nuts, no contractions in the prostate (well maybe slight ones), but most of all there is no rush of dopamine that always happens with what I call ejaculation /orgasm. Is a ruined orgasm the same physical feeling (need to pee) as milking?

I have been keeping track of how I get off and the results of getting off for almost a year now. My nerdy spread sheet counts the following categories: Male Orgasm only. Female Orgasm Only. Both Orgasm. Edging w/Fluid. Edging w/o Fluid. No Edging. Ruined Orgasm. Prostate Play. Locked and Loading (chastity device being worn). I was looking for a trend to determine if my wife and I had a cycle of sex that was better then sex randomly. (Although sometimes it is just random)…July 1 will be a full year and it appears that 14 days is my cycle and 6 days seems to be hers…with lots of teasing in between…After orgasm, I go absolutely nuts for release in about 3 days after orgasm, then I settle in by the 6th or 7th day, which ironically is when my wife is up for another go….I often find that I try not to orgasm during that 6-7 session, but it does seem to result in either a ruined orgasm or milking depending on the definition of these things….

So here’s my final question: Does Milking have to involve direct prostate stimulation? Can’t the prostate just express semen by being stimulated through other means (nipple torture, my personal favorite etc.) What do you think? JP

yeah, that’s a big part of what does it for me (as a gay man who is usually in a chastity device): i’m totally turned on by the notion that my husband’s penis can get off while mine can’t.

p.s. You give great “lady porn”, more please.

I’ll second that. I primarily caught when I was with a guy, but hadn’t seriously explored chastity at that point in my life. I frequently have the daydream and extended fantasies about bottoming while locked up. It think part of it is how clear it makes the arbitrary/capricious/unfair sexy factor pop: that one cock (and owner) is free to seek/demand/wevs whatever pleasure is desired, and one cock will see no release whatsoever. Just because.

As they say, it’s super effective.

This will be stuck in my head all day. Wow. I’m going to go get something to clean up the drool on my keyboard now.

Ps. I did envision a different kind of ending, though.

Sometimes, I wish i had people in my life who knew, it’s easier for me to talk and get insight from folks who know me really well, but it just never seemed like the right thing to disclose.

I’m sure that the way I’d talk about it to a man is different that how I’d describe it to a woman, but the fact that I was able to talk to her about it had more to do with who she was and the relationship we have rather than the fact that she’s a woman.

And no, I did not become aroused by your posts. Having reach a certain level of freedom from my own compulsive sexual behavior, I have learned to life is a lot more than sexual satisfaction. And what you and your wife agree to in the bedroom is your own business.

“…not everyone wants to know the kinds of things I say here about the people they associate with.”

But I feel its inverse even more strongly:

“… I don’t want people who aren’t in my sex life to know the kinds of intimate things I say in my blog…”

And it’s not about ‘perversion’ or shame, it’s just that Barry my accountant doesn’t need to know that I had someone’s cock in my mouth last night. My best friend doesn’t need to know that I had a tongue in my arse. The thought makes me feel socially uncomfortable, like they have been peeking in my bedroom windows (perverts!). Really and truly T. M. I. for people in my life who will never see me naked.

Good on you, though, for doing it. It sounds like you are happy about it.

Ferns

Sometimes we need moments like that in order to come face-to-face with who we are and affirm the truth.

In addition, it’s always nice to have really good friends.