This post is related to the task my Belle Fille gave me prior to leaving on her trip. I am to write on my blog specific things I want her to do to me. I’ve decided, since these posts are specifically to her and for her, that I’ll write them that way. Also, I’m breaking them up into related themes. I’ve covered orgasm denial and pain so far. Today, bondage.
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Belle,
Bondage is tricky since, as far as I’m concerned, it’s a means to an end. That is, bondage in an of itself is enjoyable, but it’s usually performed in combination with another activity. For example, ruining an orgasm through overstimulation probably would require I be secured since the sensation will be difficult for me to endure otherwise. Bondage can also be employed as an added spice to something that wouldn’t normally require it. Using my cock to pleasure yourself is wonderful, but being tied down while you ride it to orgasm is even more wonderful since it makes me feel like even more of a tool.
With that in mind, here’s a list of some things related to bondage that I’m interested in:
- Rope. So far, we’ve used cuffs and straps to bind me, but the idea of being tied up with soft, black rope is even more arousing. The straps and cuffs are very effective and efficient, but can also come off as somewhat utilitarian. Taking the time to wrap me with rope is a sensual act. Also, rope can be used to bind me in so many different ways. Yes, it’s more complicated and yes, it’ll take time to learn, but it’s so HOT.
- Sensation. Once you have me all bound up, I’d like to feel various sensations. Not all of them need to be painful, though. Intensity is what I’m looking for. Blindfold me, then use a Wartenberg Pinwheel, feather, flogger, or clothespins on me. Tickle me, scratch me, dig your nails into my softer bits. Bite me, spank me, rub IcyHot on my cock. Lick me, kiss me, trace me with ice. Whatever you can think of, I’m game.
- Metal. I’d like to play with handcuffs and chains. Bind my wrists and ankles with chains secured with padlocks. Use a shorter length with a padlock as a collar. We could use the chains with the straps we already have so as not to mar the finish on our beautiful bed. We could also use a length of chain to connect my cock ring to my collar. I want to feel you yank on that chain and direct my attention to various parts of your body.
- Make me wait. I’d like you to bind me and then let me lay there while you surf the web, watch TV, or even pleasure yourself while I am made to wait helplessly. In fact, securing me and then making me watch you use the dildo or Pink on yourself while I’m stuck in the CB6K, desperate for attention and release, sounds wonderfully excruciating.
I hope this give you some ideas on how to use bondage. Truth is, I can’t think of any activity that can’t be improved with a little immobilization.
Yours in every way,
Thumper
I’m glad I came across this list of posts about specific things to do and try. It’s a lot more useful to me and my love, given that I’m usually the Dom in our relationship, but most of the traditional femdom stuff leaves me cold.
With regard to bondage, though, I strongly recommend that YOU go out and buy a book – Jay Wiseman’s erotic bondage handbook, or Two Knotty Boys Show You the Ropes, or Chanta Rose’s Bondage for Sex — and learn all the basic ties and some advanced ones that intrigue you, first. You can get rope at home depot, or blow a fortune at twisted monk.com.
“but I’m trying to be the sub here!” you might say. And I’d say, sure… But how’s that project to get your wife more skilled than a Boy Scout coming along?
My point is, My love didn’t tie me up until after I tied her and showed her how much fun it could be. She’s not fluent at it like I am, but she’s learning because I am.
Maybe frame it the way you framed the issue of chastity to your wife. “this turns me on and I’d like to learn this for us… With your permission?” if she says yes, then you learn the skill, demo it for her, and tutor her in how to control you more thoroughly.
If she denies you, then you have to wait until she learns for herself or she consents to let you learn. Either way, she’s in charge.
Thanks for the advice, but there’s *no way* Belle’ll let me tie her up. Just never going to happen. Since I wrote this, we’ve used cuffs and straps, but not rope. Alas.
I’m sorry for your loss. Rope is a lot of fun, and not terribly difficult. But some of the things you can’t really practice on yourself.
On the other hand, a two-column and a one-column tie are pretty easy, you can do them to yourself with some practice, and using that methodology you could learn… and then you’d be in a position to partially tie yourself for her amusement.