So, according to CNN, women think it’s sexy for men to do housework! What’s more, men who do more housework get more sex than men who don’t.
Let me just roll that around in my head for a minute. Guys who do housework get to have more orgasms than those who don’t…but I’m doing more housework than ever yet coming less and less. Hmm. [stroking chin] What’s that all about? Oh, yeah! I’m a freak. Gotcha.
Of course, it’s not just about the sex and, obviously to me now, “sex” can be defined in ways than a lot of men can’t imagine, but the thrust of the article remains that there is a connection in a woman’s mind between seeing her man do domestic work and her desire to fuck him. If most women are prewired that way, then does that mean most women are at least somewhat predisposed to accept an FLR-type relationship? My observation of Belle supports the article’s premise, though Belle’s not in it for the whole “FL” thing. She’s not a natural dominant (at least when it comes to me). Even though my list of required duties is well-defined, she’ll still do some of them for me. I totally get the positive connection between housework and sex, but to take that up to the next level (a level – unsurprisingly – never even hinted at in the CNN article), she’d have to expect me to do those things.
I’m not complaining or anything. I’m just observing. And wondering how to integrate the concept of “shared responsibility” into a Dom/sub dynamic. I’m supposed to keep the dishes clean, but I heard her this morning doing them while I was still in bed. It made me feel good that I didn’t have to do them, but then I also felt bad and conflicted because I was supposed to do them – and knew there’d be no negative repercussion of her feeling the need to do them instead.
If the consequences of me not performing my duties is Belle eventually doing them for me, then what’s changed? And how do I, the supposed submissive partner, stay motivated in the face of that? I think there needs to be a hard line around the things I’m really, truly supposed to do and some kind of negative consequence for not performing those duties to her satisfaction. I feel like I need that kind of structure and definition.
In the mean time, I’m just happy she’s happy and, as confirmed by CNN, really does get turned on watching me clean the counters.