Mailbag

Over on The Portfolio, an anonymous…what? Not reader. Not over there. Well, I guess they’re a reader. Whatever, here’s what they said:

Last year my Wife became very demanding about me wearing the CB all the time full time. Its getting close a year now and she has only become more demanding of me. This year she has 11 orgasms while I only have had 8 ejaculations.

She seems to think nothing of taking hers and denieing me mine and in fact has many times told me, “Males don’t need to ejaculate”.

I feel like if I told her, “I want to stop wearing the chastity device.” she would get really mad and not allow it.
I’ve grown into this place and she keeps me here.

Do you feel like this sometimes?

I’m not sure how you feel. I read it one way, and it sounds like you’re not having a very good time. I read it another way, and it sounds like you’re getting off on it.

I supposed I’ve felt both ways. We all have rough spots, after all. It’s a hard thing to wear a device, but it’s also supposed to be enjoyable. If you’re not enjoying yourself, it doesn’t really matter if males need to ejaculate because males (as well as females) need to feel like they’re being cared for and loved by their partner. Again, if you’re not enjoying yourself, you need to speak to your wife immediately (and feel free to take the device off) to figure out what you’re not getting out of the dynamic.

If you are enjoying yourself, yeah, I’ve felt that way, too. That warm and fuzzy sensation of having no power and no control and living entirely at her whim. That’s fucking awesome. If you are enjoying it, I think you’re a lucky guy because your wife has clearly taken to her role.

Reader Larf666 said:

I’m wondering what your experience is whith the relation chastity and cognitive work. When I’m in a CB for longer then a week, I start to get very distracted, have I hard time concentrating for a long time in row, etc.. My mind keeps going to hot places and hence, I have a hard time getting my day job done… Do you have similar experiences? If so, how do you cope with it? Do you get use to it?

This is a huge problem for me, actually. I’m more than a little ADD to begin with and long-term denial ends up feeling like there’s a three-year-old following me around constantly asking questions. Can I have a sucker? When will we get there? I have to pee! Can I watch TV? I’m hungry! Can I have a pony? Tumblr makes that worse because I know there’s a veritable flood of arousing pictures just a click away.

The way I get around it is by having a job that requires a lot of interaction with other people. When I’m in a room with a whiteboard and a group of others, I may get momentarily distracted by the occasionally hot person or some otherwise inconsequential detail of their person, but it allows me to be distracted enough that I forget my other distraction.

Just on Friday, I was at an all-day offsite thing with a bunch of strangers. I found the content sufficiently interesting and the environment allowed me no screen privacy so the online distractions weren’t an issue, but all I could do was sit there and listen. Then, after lunch, a dude sat next to me who I was totally into. On the surface, this guy was not my type at all. Normally, I’d not give him a second glance. But in my enhanced state, I didn’t really give a shit about his face. He was taller than me by a few inches and showed a fairly well-developed body under his clothes. Not ripped, just really strong. Broad shoulders. Meaty thighs. Nice…sigh…just about everything. Normally, when I see a guy who gets me off, I fantasize about them fitting into me, but this guy was different. This guy I wanted to be manhandled by. I wanted him to be a disgusting pig of a man and totally use me, then throw me away like yesterday’s paper. It was palpable.

What was I saying? Oh, yeah, distractions. Totally been there. You don’t ever really get over it or used to it.

Kayle wrote:

Hey Thumper;

I found your blog last week, and I’m really, really impressed by it! It’s amazing how devoted you are to her, and every one of your blog entries seems so honest and easy-to-read.

The reason I’m writing is because I work for EdenFantasys as a member of the Blogger Relations Team.  We’d LOVE to see you getting involved with us. One of the main ways that most bloggers like to start working with us to write a basic post in exchange for a product. I’ve noticed that you have mentioned pleasuring your partner multiple times, and I think we have items that might make things even more fun.

She went on a bit more, but you get the idea.

In short, I’ve agreed to post reviews in exchange for stuff. This isn’t the first time I’ve been contacted for this kind of thing, but it was the first time the person doing the contacting sounded like they actually read the blog and found the content engaging (as opposed to the “Dear [inster blogger name]” kind of stuff). Also, EF is my favorite adult toy site and the first place I look for new things. They have a terrific assortment toys, though not necessarily of fetish items (for the hard-core stuff, I like Stockroom — also because their models are hot), and the actual site is a joy to use. My favorite feature is the “view actual size” option they have on many items. You move a little slider until the on-screen image of a credit card or end of a $20 bill matches a real one to get a very accurate idea of whether or not the item you’re thinking about will really fit up your ass (or other orifice of your choice). I make websites for a living and am a harsh critic of lousy ones. EdenFantasys.com is awesome.

They also really seem to give a shit about the community they sell to. They have a ton of content on their site, from extensive video reviews to blogs to an actual magazine with real articles and everything. Yes, they’re obviously trying to make a buck off us, but they’re also really into what they do and it shows.

And that’s why I’m very excited to enter into a relationship with them. If all I was going to get was free dildos and stuff, I wouldn’t do it. As a blogger, all I really have is my reputation. The brands I choose to associate with will obviously affect that. I have no problem whatsoever associating with EdenFantasys.

And no, the preceding three paragraphs are not part of the deal. I wrote all that because I wanted to.

In the future, if I’m reviewing something I got for free, I will be crystal clear about it. I still have a few things I want to write about with regard to various toys and I’m sure there’ll be more like that in the future. In those cases, it will also be clear that I bought them just like anyone else. Also, if I don’t like something I get for free, I’ll be honest about it and won’t just say something good to keep the gravy train running. Promise.

With that, I’ll close this missive. There are more things for me to say (like, for example, the fact that Belle let me come last night), but the day’s a-wastin’.

10 thoughts on “Mailbag

  1. I can’t imagine that the anonymous’ wife is really enjoying her husband’s chastity if she only has 11 orgasms in a year. Maybe the chastity thing is just a way for her to avoid any sexual play? Personally, 11 orgasms is the minimum I’d except for a month.

  2. I realize that everybody is different, but it still surprises me when I read about guys getting too easily distracted. When Mrs. Edge isn’t around, I find it even *easier* to remain, umm, I’m not sure if “focused” is the right word, but I don’t get edgy, irritable, or ADD about things.

    When Mrs. Edge is around, though, I do tend to get distracted by her.

  3. As a blogger, all I really have is my reputation. The brands I choose to associate with will obviously affect that. I have no problem whatsoever associating with EdenFantasys.

    It doesn’t sound to me like you’re very familiar with EdenFantasys at all. Yes, reputation is important, and EdenFantasys’s is badly tarnished. There’s actually so much I’m just going to toss some URLs your way and hope you find it prudent to dig into the history with that company.

    http://www.redgarterclub.com/SDChronBlog2dot5/2010/05/22/edenfallays-com-like-bp-but-with-bs/

    http://aagblog.com/2010/05/14/problems-edenfantasys/

    http://aagblog.com/2005/10/17/problems-with-edenfantasyscom/

    http://essin-em.com/2008/12/my-take-on-the-eden-fantasys-drama/

    http://www.heyepiphora.com/2010/05/edenfantasys-a-pattern-of-deception/

    http://maybemaimed.com/2010/05/19/edenfantasyss-unethical-technology-is-a-self-referential-black-hole/

    And there’s plenty, plenty more, too. Just have a Google search or two.

    You already know I’m disappointed in you for other reasons. This would be yet another blow. But hey, it’s your reputation to ride—or ruin.

    1. We keep having the same conversation, don’t we?

      I have bought a lot of stuff from EF and every transaction has been fine. The products always work as intended and they’re shipped in a timely manner. My personal experience is that they are a reputable retailer.

      It’s also my personal experience that Amazon is a reputable retailer. I have Amazon boxes landing on my desk every week. However, I’m also quite sure that if I googled for it, I’d find thousands of horror stories.

      In any event, as I said, I will be forthright in my description of both the products and the company. If I have a bad experience, you can read about it here.

      You already know I’m disappointed in you for other reasons.

      Yes, I do the best I can dealing with that burden. Mostly it’s by never considering what your opinion would be regarding what I do or say. Why can’t we just leave it at that?

  4. The question of reciprocal links goes to the heart of the Internet. I’m with maymay in that we should stand up for what is right, regardless of wether it affects us personally. all it takes for evil to flourish is for good men to remain silent. Ok link reciprocation isn’t evil, but the principle is the same, and I’m as tired as he is of seeing so many people not stand up for what is right in so many ways.

    I recently stood between a large man and a small cyclist while he tried to beat the crap out of the little guy. Many tens of cars drove by. More serious an issue perhaps, yet still nobody else helped. Your personal experience is not always enough of a reason to stay on the sidelines.

    That said maymay has no idea how to make his point without coming on too strong. It comes across rude. Perhaps that applies to me too… Hope not but I had to say, I can see his point.

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