Belle let me out of my confinement last Wednesday night in anticipation of our family trip to New York the following day. I had been encased for two solid weeks at that point, but I didn’t get much chance to enjoy my freedom since we were up late packing and the alarm went off in the wee hours of the next day so we could catch our flight. Then, three nights with the four of us in a Manhattan hotel room didn’t exactly lend itself to any penis play time.
But that’s not to say I didn’t get something out of it. Like any great city, New York is all about walking. Having not seen the light of day for so long left the head of the penis extraordinarily sensitive. As I’d walk, the motion would cause the penis to move against the fabric inside my pants and I’d find myself very distracted. What’s more, I’d eventually develop a raging boner, all from nothing more than incidental contact with my clothing.
We got home very late Sunday night and Belle told me I’d go in the next night. Monday morning, I found myself edging in the shower. It’s been two months since I came and I’m too weak to keep my hands off when I have the opportunity. Getting out of the shower, I decided to conduct an experiment that would provide me with practical information and make sure I didn’t spill any seed.
I’ve played around with lidocaine cream in the past and found it to be a really good way to temporarily deny myself the ability to orgasm even without a device in place. Recently, I’ve read several accounts of men in my position who’ve used it to allow their partners full penetrative sex while removing worry that it’d make them come (like this one). I told Belle this and she seemed somewhat interested in the idea since the most limiting factor of my denial is her enjoyment of riding the erect penis. Also, I have felt guilt in the past in not being able to give her this activity that she likes so much.
So, I bought a new tube of the stuff, this time at a 5% strength versus the 4% cream I’ve used in the past. What I wanted to find out was A) how long would it take before the penis was numb enough to safely use, and B) what parts of the penis could I leave with sensation and still not be concerned with orgasm?
First off, this stuff ain’t cheap. I got a 2 ounce tube (this one, marketed as an anorectal cream – sexy!) and paid $50. I don’t recall how much the 4% cream I got last time was (and I can’t find it on Amazon any more), but it wasn’t anything like that much. The 5% version is more expensive, but I figured it’d also be 20% faster/longer lasting. Good news is, it doesn’t take much of the stuff to do the job so we should be able to get many session from the one tube.
The reason I wanted to know how long it took for numbness to set in is, of course, I don’t want to leave Belle waiting. Plus, I wanted to know how much advance planning it’d take to use. Turns out, I was sufficiently sedated after about 10-12 minutes (which is a bit faster than the 4% cream). I could still feel a little, but not enough to come. I applied it only on the head and maybe 30% of the end of the shaft, making sure to use the PA ring to get it down inside the urethra, too. I left some of the shaft with sensation since I’m worried that total lack of penile feeling would make keeping an erection difficult. Interestingly, once it had taken affect, the penis felt warmer than it had before. I assume this is because its skin couldn’t feel the air around it anymore. In any event, that was my clue that it was ready to try. I washed the remaining cream off and towel-dried the meat.
I jacked off pretty intensely for about 10 minutes. For most of that time, I had the sensation of wanting to come (my nuts even drew up as if I was about to), but I could never quite get there. It was like having a sneeze ready to come out, but never being able to get it out. I could feel the lower half of the penis pretty good, so my brain knew what was happening, but all the nerve endings in the business end were silent. After maybe 15 minutes, I started to feel like an orgasm was about to happen and I found myself edging again, even with a mostly numb dick. Unlike last time I tried this, there still was sensation in part of the shaft and that seemed to be enough after a long while to move the internal machinery in place. Next time, I’ll make sure to apply the cream further down the bottom of the shaft as feeling in that area seems to be integral in achieving orgasm even when the head has none. Also, if I have the time, I might also apply a second coat.
I think Belle wanted to have sex last night, but it was not to be. She told me I could stay out one more day, but I find being unprotected to be maddeningly distracting. Especially after two months with at least one more to go. Based on that, she allowed me to lock myself back up. After she fell asleep, I did (though not before giving the penis one last round of wanking). If she wants to use it tonight (or whenever), I can get it out quickly enough. If she gives me 15 minutes of warning, I can even make it safely fuckable.
I woke up at 5:00 AM for the first time in days with the incredible pressure of a secured erection. It was intense, as always, but not in a way bad. The discomfort was actually comforting. It’s a feeling only a happily denied man can appreciate, to be sure. The feeling of not being tempted by the annoying penis and there being zero chance of accidentally squirting. It felt safe and secure and perfectly natural.
This is what we have used:
http://www.amazon.com/Topical-Numbing-Anaesthetic-Cream-Lidocaine/dp/B003YQQ33A/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1319730139&sr=1-1
$20 for 1/2 as much so about the same price. But, as you mentioned, it doesn’t take much.
I also keep some of these around:
http://www.amazon.com/Trojan-Extended-Pleasure-Control-Lubricant/dp/B000I5MYR4
It also has some numbing in it for that “2nd coat”. And, they guarantee none of the numbing cream gets on my wife and ruins her fun.
Those numbing creams are great. My wife and I have tried them twice now the brand name we have is called Emla. Pretty much the same experience as you’ve had. A suggestion I got from a body piercer who uses it to numb genitals for piercings is to keep the area you’ve creamed covered. They use plastic cling film and it keeps the cream from evaporating. In my case the foreskin does the trick.
Yes! Your blog was where I read that! I added a link above.
Thanks for the tip re: covering. I’m sans foreskin (alas), but I have plastic cling.
Good to hear you are playing around with lignocaine again. Might make for a good HNT
Penetration of most medications will be enhanced if the skin is moist – so apply it after a shower. The goal is to maximise the extracellular fluid to give the particles plenty of space to migrate towards to the deeper layers that house the nerves.
As the previous commenter mentioned it’s a good idea to wrap it in plastic until play time (a condom works well). There is no advantage to applying a second coat of the cream but a coat of oil based lubricant (e.g. baby oil) will provide a similar waterproofing effect as plastic.
Thanks for the tip (or the numbing of the tip) regarding the 5% lidocaine. Gosh, it works great! After a few weeks of denial, it’s always a tricky question for how to keep everyone happy. Me denied, and her satisfied. Used to be limited to dildos and vibrators. Now, I’m pretty much auditioning as the human dildo. Allows a full blown banging session without the worry of premature anything. And it only seems to take 5-10 min for an “application” to begin to work with a good 30-40 minutes of runway time. (honestly, that’s more than enough to “get ‘er done…or get her done!). Just got to be sure to scrub down after application, and before sex – a little warm soapy washcloth works well, and seems to earn points in the hygiene department…not a bad idea for the locked one, returning from a long-term confinement anyway! Great idea, and a diversion in the toybox. much appreciated.