Exquisitedragon commented on my post about being an idiot in a tent. Part of what he said was…
These days, since we’re in the middle of some very long term denial (200+days) I’m not going to fall off the end of that without her pushing all the buttons to do so! It’s been so long and it’s her prize to take. I’m not crazy enough to go and change that.
And it occurred to me that if Belle was operating under a similar model (as in, denying me for a specific amount of time or to a specific date) there’s no way I would have cheated like that. I just know it. But why?
This may be due to some lingering attachment I have to my orgasm. Like, if there’s a hard goal, then I cannot do anything but respect it. But when if and how I come is seemingly random (from my point of view), respecting my lack of control over that event is more difficult. It doesn’t happen or not according to any observable process so what does it matter if I squirt a little on the side? What harm is that?
The flip side of this, and I think one of the main reasons Belle denies me as she does, is because in the past if she decided to move the date up because that’s what suited her or if I accidentally came too soon, I’d get all mental about it. Plus, of course, she’s come to the realization that denying me orgasm when she really wants to feel me come is also denying herself which is a bit of a paradox.
Bottom line, I need to fully own and respect that I don’t EVER come without permission, no exceptions, no wiggle room, no doubt. That the timing is not mine to decide EVER. That the method in which it happens is not up to me EVER. That I will ALWAYS get caught if I try.
This is my pledge to her: Forever and always, my orgasm belongs to you completely.
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I very much respect your renewed commitment to your chastity to Belle. Good luck in continuing that.
And thanks for the mention and writing a post based on my comment. I’m honored. 😉
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It is very good to stop and reassert the core agreements that govern our relationships and I think this was a great moment for it. Good D/s adapts to the change in people and circumstances and it sounds like that was what happened here.
I must admit to being curious if punishment is a part of your dynamic and if it was used here?