Looking for your first chastity device? I have some advice for you ↦
Back in early December, 2008, I attempted to summarize a few things I had learned about living with the CB-6000 male chastity device. I was (and maybe still am) relatively new to the practice of wearing such a thing and was somewhat annoyed at the relative lack of actual, real world info I could find about how one lives in one (there are a few notable exceptions listed below in the Resources section). Thanks to Google, that original page has become one of the most frequently read on my blog. I decided that since I have a little more experience under my belt (pardon the pun), it was as good a time as any to take that original idea and expand upon it.
I’m writing this for the person who, like me not so very long ago, was just beginning to consider chastity as a part of their sexual lifestyle. Specifically, those considering or recently acquiring the device known as the CB-6000. While some of what I write below probably applies to other chastity devices, my only experience thus far as been with the CB6K.
Please feel free to help me make this page a better resource for others by adding your own two cents via a comment. I will occasionally edit this page to help ensure its content is as complete, up to date, and helpful as possible.
The CB-6000 is the fourth in a line of very popular male chastity devices manufactured by A.L. Enterprises. It’s constructed of clear polycarbonate and consists of seven interlocking elements (their website says it “fits together like puzzle pieces” and that’s not far from the truth). Those elements are:
- A tube, or cage, into which the penis is inserted. The tube is 3.25 inches long and 1.375 inches in diameter (though it’s wider from side-to-side than it is from top-to-bottom). It has a slotted opening at the end to allow for urination and three openings on either side to allow for ventilation and hygiene.
- A three-piece ring which is worn around the penis and behind the testicles and onto which the tube is locked. The ring comes in five diameters: 2″, 1.875″, 1.75″, 1.625″, and 1.5″. The top portion of the ring, though which the tube is locked on, consists of two semicircles, one of which has two white plastic pegs that help support and stabilize the entire unit when it’s being worn.
- A locking pin. This white plastic pin comes in four lengths. The pin slides through a hole in the ring and a matching hole in the tube. The lock goes through a hole in its end. The pin is not perfectly circular so that it won’t turn when inserted (which helps keep the lock in one position and adds some structural stiffness).
- A spacer cuff. The spacer also comes in four sizes and slides over a matching sized locking pin. It lengthens or shortens the effective length of the tube and ensures the tube does not pinch the scrotum. It also provides structural strength to the entire apparatus.
- A small padlock, the purpose of which should be obvious. ;)
When looking to buy a CB-6000, you should be aware that prices vary widely all over the web. You can buy it directly from the manufacturer for $150 or from the site I used for $130 (Update: The site I used has been down for more than a year). Be careful not to purchase units priced “too good to be true” on eBay or other sites as inferior knock-offs abound.
Before I go further, I think it’s hugely important to point out something really obvious: The human male was not designed to have a polycarbonate tube locked onto his dick. You can hurt yourself playing with chastity. Listen to your body and don’t try to man-up and accept excessive pain just because you think there’s some kind of kinky merit badge waiting for you at the end of the ordeal. Common sense is your friend. If something feels wrong or looks wrong, it might actually be wrong. Go slow.
How it works
The ring goes around your cock and balls and the cage is connected to the ring via a locking pin and spacer. When presented with an erection (and yes, you will still get erections in chastity), the CB-6000 will begin to rise away from your body as the head of your penis pushes against the end of the tube. This will lift the ring and, since it’s encircling your scrotum, pull your testicle sack tight. In effect, the CB-6000 harnesses your cock to your balls. Where it goes, they go…until they can’t go any further.
You’ll read on the internet some people who say the CB-6000 stops erections. That’s not true. Short of taking drugs, there’s no way to stop erections, even when in chastity. If they’re caused by erotic thought or imagery, they are somewhat controllable and may quickly fade in the face of physical discomfort. You may find that you stay soft in some situations in which you would normally get hard or that you don’t get as hard as you used to. In my opinion, this is a result of “training” (i.e., your body and/or mind learning to keep you from experiencing pain) and not the result of any physical change or damage being caused by the device.
The erections you get while sleeping, though, of are an entirely different kind. Called nocturnal penile tumescence, these are not caused by sexual stimulus and are purely physiological in nature. You have no control over them and they are typically stronger than those that occur randomly throughout the day and are therefore the most uncomfortable to experience. See the section of sleeping for more info.
What the CB-600 does is make erections uncomfortable and maddeningly inaccessible. Not having access to the one part of your body with which you have the closest and most intimate relationship will require you relearn how to deal with your sexual urges. During sex (and of course, you will still have sex, just not with your cock), you’ll be surprised how much more there is to your body besides the part locked in plastic. And if you’re a straight guy, you may be shocked at how many different paths there are to your woman’s sexual satisfaction. By itself, but especially when combined with prolonged orgasm denial, a device like the CB-6000 will entirely change your world view
Fit and comfort
The first and most important thing to remember when it comes to fit and comfort is that these things are in the eye of the beholder. There will always be an element of discomfort in wearing the CB6K (or any chastity device for that matter). In fact, discomfort is, for many, one of the defining elements of living in enforced chastity. If you are someone who does not endure pain well or who gets no erotic pleasure from feeling pain or being forced to endure it by your partner, then enforced chastity (that is, chastity ensured by a physical device) my not be for you. If, on the other hand, there’s a bit of the masochist in you or you get off on bondage or suffering for your mate, you should keep reading.
Getting it on
It has been said before that getting into any chastity device can be a highly ironic experience. The device who’s purpose is to entrap and control your erections will, the first time you try to put it on, probably give you a terrific erection. My advice is to make the first attempt right after you’ve already come (though, if said coming was from penetrative sex, I’d clean up a bit first).
The included instructions say to use lube to help get the penis in the tube. This is bad advice since many lubes contain glycerin which is a chemical closely related to sugar. Unless you’re trying to give yeast something to snack on in your moist, warm chastity tube, I would avoid using it. A better bet is body lotion. It absorbs well into the skin and is useful on a daily basis to help keep the penis moving around easily. It’s not entirely necessary to get the head of the penis all the way down into the tube, so just get enough of it stuffed in there to keep excess skin out of the way of getting pinched during assembly and you should be fine.
However, if you’re like me and want to start your imprisonment fully inserted or are uncircumcised or have a larger than average penis, you may want to consider the “sock method” of insertion. I could go into a lot of detail telling you how this works, or I could simply link you to this page on the Tickleberry site that has words and pictures. This is my preferred method for a few reasons. First, as I mentioned, I like to be all the way in when I put it on (just because I’m like that). Second, I find full insertion makes it easier to avoid pinching. The more of you inside the tube, the less of you to pinch when you slide the spacer over the locking pin, etc.
Lubrication is a key to comfort while in chastity. After my daily cleaning ritual, I usually put a small amount of lotion on a Q-Tip and swab it between the shaft of my penis and the the tube wall (not on the penis head directly). This makes movement within the tube more comfortable, especially during erections when the friction caused by the swelling of the penis can actually prevent it from filling the tube completely.
The other place lubrication is necessary is around the ring, especially between the ring and scrotum. That skin will tend to get bunched up causing it to pinch and burn. Having it properly lubricated is a must. This can be done easily and cheaply with baby oil. On the plus side, baby oil is easy to obtain and inexpensive. On the minus side, it doesn’t last all day and, well, it smells like babies. Another option (and the one I prefer) is 100% silicone lube. It’s much more expensive than baby oil, but you don’t need to use as much (a few small applications a day) and its affects last longer than baby oil. I have one 4.5 oz. bottle that I’m only half way through after four months that I think I paid about $15 for. In addition, it’s orderless and a great way to keep the scrotum skin conditioned as it begins to stretch (I did mention the CB6K stretches your scrotum skin out, didn’t I?).
Finding the right fit
One of the nicest features of the CB-6000 is also one of its biggest issues. The net result of all those little pieces of polycarbonate that come rattling out of the box are twenty different sizing combinations. I’ve read a lot of stories from people online who gave up on the CB6K because of comfort issues that were probably due to incorrect fit.
My advice at the beginning is to find the smallest ring you can comfortably get around your flaccid penis and balls (“comfortably” means they don’t turn purple) and use the next-largest size up in combination with the largest spacer. Wear that combination for just a few hours on the first day. Look for abrasions or pinch points. The flesh down there is not accustomed to being squished by with hard plastic and it will probably hurt in a few spots. If you see any areas where the skin is abraded or sore to the point of being swollen and red, leave the device off until it heals and try again. After a while, the tissue will toughen up and these things will diminish. In any event, wear the device for a few hours each day and for longer periods as you grow used to it.
Once you find you can wear the device all day with a minimum or acceptable level of discomfort, it’s time to try sleeping in it. I will tell you now, don’t do this the night before an important meeting or job interview. You won’t be getting much sleep. You’ll wake up several times and be in a lot of pain. Obviously, one of the primary objectives of a chastity device is to control erections. The erections you have at night are among the strongest and hardest you can have. Chances are, you will feel pain in your erect penis as it tries to break out of the tube, burning around your scrotum where it’s being pulled tight against the ring (possibly along with a mild version of the feeling you’ve been kicked in the balls), a sharp biting from the ring as it constricts your entire unit, and even internal pain from the erection being backed-up into your body. Sounds fun, doesn’t it? Short story is, you’ll get used to it. See the section below on sleeping for more info.
Once you can (mostly) sleep through the night and find all these various pains and discomforts coming under control, you should switch to a shorter locking pin and spacer. This is likely to start at least part of the pain/adjustment cycle all over again, but to a lesser degree. Once you adjust to that combination, keep using shorter pins and spacers until you find the one beyond which you cannot go. Once you adjust to that, it’s time to drop the ring size. When doing this, switch back to the next longer pin and spacer. After the adjustment period is over, go back down to the shorter spacer.
There are at least three reasons for wanting to find the smallest ring and spacer combo you can stand. First, the less plastic you have between your legs the more comfortable you will ultimately be. Second, a smaller package is less noticeable under your clothes. Third, and most important for some, smaller rings and spacers mean higher security for the device (that is, the harder it will be to slip out). I’ll get into security in greater detail below.
Once you settle in on the correct fit and, specifically, which locking pin you want to use, you have the option of trimming the extra length off the two support pins that are part of the ring assembly. These pins are long enough to accommodate the longest spacer and chances are you will not be using that one. Trimming the excess (using a Dremel or something similar) will take just that much more out of your pants and help just that much more with concealment.
The fit process might sound like it takes a really long time. If can. For me, I would say I had a combined time in the device of about 6-8 weeks before I found the right combo (1.75″ ring, second to shortest spacer). Ultimately, you’ll appreciate all the work you put in to finding the perfect fit.
Living in chastity
Wearing a chastity device 24/7 will definitely impact more than just your bedroom life, even when it’s one as relatively unobtrusive and comfortable as the CB-6000. It will likely be on your mind almost constantly (and, if you ever forget about it, it will find a way to remind you of its existence).
First and foremost, unless you’re cool with everyone you meet wondering about the odd bulge in your pants, you will want to think about the right clothing to maximize concealment of the device. As you’d expect, pants with more room in them are better than those that are tight. However, the most important aspect to consider when thinking about pants is where the crotch point is. Some pants labeled “loose” might actually have a low rise which effectively reduces the amount of room in the crotch. Since the tube of CB6K does not squash or give at all under your clothing, this would be bad. Not only would your condition be more noticeable, it would also be very uncomfortable as you (the only flexible thing in your pants) are twisted and contorted by the device. Personally, I had about five pairs of pants that worked reasonably well with the CB6K when I first started wearing it. One, a pair of flat-front dress pants, wouldn’t look like a good fit, but when combined with correct underwear (keep reading), the device was invisible. It goes without saying, but the best bet when looking for new “chastity pants” is to wear the device into the changing room.
The other variable in concealment and comfort is choice of underwear. Loose, boxer-type underwear is better for comfort in that the device (and you inside it) moves more freely and isn’t pressed down as severely, but doesn’t help with concealment very much. Tight, low-rise jockey-style underwear is best at holding the package down and hides it better, but can be more uncomfortable, especially when sitting. Personally, I’ve found going without underwear to be worst of all the options. Not only is the CB-6000 much more noticeable while going commando, but the inside seams of some pants can be very rough on stretched, unprotected scrotum skin.
Here are some pictures I took of myself wearing the CB6K.
In the image on the left, I’m wearing a pair of Banana Republic relaxed fit jeans while the right image shows me in a pair of light BR flat front trousers. As you can see, in the jeans, the device appears as just a large bugle which could be mistaken for either a very large flaccid cock or short, fat erection. In the dress pants, and especially due to the thin fabric, the ridge on the head of the tube is plainly visible (to those looking, anyway). In the jeans, I was wearing a pair of relatively forgiving boxer briefs that didn’t press the device down as much as the tight jockey-style underwear I was wearing with the dress pants. You can see the difference in how high the device rode in the jeans while it sat down further in my crotch in the trousers. Obviously, the jeans were more comfortable.
I’ve found practically all pants show some kind of clue that I’m wearing the device. The pair I have that shows the least is a pair of fairly baggy cargo pants. There are some dress pants I can’t wear at all due to the lack of crotch room (both because the device is plainly evident, even when I’m standing, and also very uncomfortable when sitting).
My final note on clothing and concealment is this: Get over it. No, it is not possible to totally hide the device all of the time. Sooner or later, someone is going to see the odd bulge in your pants. You can’t do anything about that. Personally, I’ve stopped worrying about it. Not only is it highly unlikely that anyone will ever ask me about it, it’s really none of their business anyway. And besides, it gives them something to think about in their free time. ;)
As mentioned in the fit section, sleeping can be a very difficult part of living in a chastity device, especially at the beginning. It will hurt. A lot. The only thing I can say is, it will get better. Eventually, you will sleep through it or even come to like and look forward to the sensations.
Sometime during your first night in chastity, you will find yourself wide awake with a full tube, a tight and painful sack, and a burning sensation beneath the ring. As I said above, lubrication will help somewhat with the burning sensation. The tight sack will begin to fix itself as it stretches over time (you will find your scrotum will actually get bigger and hang lower when you’re out of chastity if you spend extended periods locked-up). Also, I’ve found my body seems to adjust to the ring as it encircles my erections. It just hurts less over time. Whether that’s the brain becoming numb to the pain of the body actually adapting (or some combination), I have no idea.
You will spend some time trying to find the most comfortable position. I’ve found that laying on my side, with my lower leg put forward and my package pulled forward and resting on it, is the best of several bad options. I find laying on my back to be unacceptable since the package will then flop one way or the other and pull in the opposite direction. Laying so that the erection is underneath my body causes more blood to rush into it. You can actually feel the erection become more engorged when you roll over onto your stomach.
The main thing to remember when laying there in agony at 3:00 AM is, it will get better eventually. You will even sleep through it, in time. I promise. If you’re like me, you might even find yourself enjoying it. Until then, the scrotum pain can be eased by lubricating the ring before bed (as described above). The strength of your erections can be lessened somewhat by ensuring your bladder is empty before you go to sleep. The biting of the ring around the root of your erection will start to go away as your body gets used to it being there, but the tube’s not getting any bigger and your hard cock’s not getting any smaller, so that’s pain you’ll just have to deal with. If you find it entirely intolerable, move up to the next larger ring size for a while. You might also consider wearing the smaller ring during the day and switching to the larger one at night for a period of time. However, nighttime discomfort is part and parcel of the enforced chastity experience and can never, in my experience, be entirely eliminated.
Many say living in chastity means an end to peeing standing up. This is not true. With a little practice and the proper technique, it’s entirely possible. (Note, I only recommend trying this with urinals as aim is not so important. With a toilet, you’re aiming at a finite spot below you while with a urinal you’re just sort of shooting it over yonder.)
First thing you need to you is push and hold the cage back toward your body. This will help press the head of your dick against the slot at the end of the tube (if your flaccid length is too short to accomplish this, then you probably won’t be able to pull this off). Then using your pinky, line up (the best you can) your slit with the tube’s slot. Try to pee slowly at first, because failure at this stage can lead to a lot of large, hard to explain wet patches running all down the front of your pants. Once you’re sure the stream is unobstructed, increase the pressure until you peeing normally. I’ve found the KSD-G3 security device to be helpful when attempting vertical urination. The device holds the penis down into the tube by design and makes it easier to get into position when nature calls.
All that being said, if, like me, you have a Prince Albert piercing and wear jewelry through it, peeing will forever be an activity done while sitting. I’ve found the jewelry makes it impossible to properly align with the slot. Remember what I said about the large, wet stains on the front of your pants? Trust me, it ain’t worth trying.
Here’s the deal with security: It’s all in your head. It’s best if you consider the CB6K a deterrent to accessing your cock. If you feel you need, for whatever reason, to have absolutely no ability to get to your meat, then the CB-6000 (and probably any trapped-ball designed device) is not for you. In my opinion, the most effective chastity device is between your ears. The CB6K will get you 80-90% of the way there. You have to bring the rest of the equation with you in the form of will-power, self control, and respect for the authority of your keyholder (assuming you have one).
The CB-6000 can be defeated. Depending on how it’s been fitted and your anatomy, it can sometimes be defeated quite easily. Even if its design was such that pull-out was impossible, there’s still the fact that there’s just a little bitty lock holding the whole thing together. If you’re a real man, you probably have three different tools that could cut it easily if you really wanted out.
That being said, there are a couple of ways to enhance the security of the device. The first is the KSD-G3. This product consists of a short plastic tongue that fits over the locking pin and extends into the tube with a rib at its end that presses into the top of the penis shaft (you get three units each with progressively larger ribs at the end to help with proper fit). It’s supposed to make the opening of the tube smaller and make pull-out more difficult as the rib will catch on a flaccid penis’ loose skin. I’ve found the KSD-G3 will make a well-fitted device more secure, but probably not totally secure for everyone. Lot’s of soap and a cold shower will stymie even the KSD-G3. Another negative aspect of the device is its rib can actually cut into the top of the penis when pressed against it during erections. I’ve never had it actually break the skin, but it’s left deep abrasions that can sometimes develop thin scabs.
Another security option is a PA cable. This is a stainless steel cable that connects to the lock and goes through a ring inserted through a Prince Albert piercing. You can read my review of this device here and more posts about my unsuccessful experimentation with my own homemade PA cables here. In short, I found wearing cables to be very uncomfortable and I can’t recommend it. However, it is a popular option among those with PA piercings, so if you’re one of those guys, give it a shot. It’s just ten bucks (or even less if you build your own).
Ever been in a particularly nasty restroom in a greasy gas station or well-used roadside rest stop? Know how that smells? If you’re not careful, you’re CB-6000 can end up smelling that way, too. I have two ways of dealing with chastity hygiene. The first is my daily routine accomplished while still in the device and the second is a once-a-week cleaning with the device off.
The first thing you’ll need is a squirt bottle with a long, angled tip. KeptForHer sells the one I use, though I’m sure something similar can be found at a beauty supply store or well-stocked pharmacy. I put a dollop of antibacterial soap in the bottle and then fill it with warm water. Once the soap and the water have been thoroughly mixed, I quirt all over inside the end of the tube. Depending on your ability to pee vertically, this area can become pretty dirty after just one day. If I’m more flaccid than not, I’ll use my finger to block the bottom of the tube’s slot and fill it with as much water as will fit. Then, I’ll pull the tube back and forth so that my penis, in effect, scrubs the tube and sloshes the water around.
Once I feel the end of the tube is clean, I carefully insert the squirt bottle’s tip down between the tube’s wall and my dick. You need to be careful since the plastic tip is relatively sharp (duh). Squeeze as much water as you can in there to help flush out dirt and oils.
Once the soaping is finished, I flush the entire area with lots of non-soapy water. That soap can sting if it works its way up your urethra. If, like me, you have an extra hole in your dick due to a PA piercing, it’s pretty easy for the soap to find its way in there. Two words: yee-ouch.
After rinsing, dry the area as much as possible. I typically will use a Q-Tip to work some lotion into the tube at this point. I usually do this procedure at the end of the day before I go to bed with the entire unit hanging into the sink.
If you don’t feel you need to give yourself a thorough cleaning (and this is easily found out by running a Q-Tip around in the tube and then sniffing it), I’ve found a simple and quick alternative. Take a flushable wetwipe and push it unto the end of the tube with a Q-Tip. Using the Q-Tip, rub the wipe around as much as possible, then pull it back out the end of the tube. This does not leave you as clean and fresh as the soapy water method, but it’s a quick way to clean up on the run.
Once a week, I ask my keyholder to unlock me so I can disassemble and clean the entire device. This is done in a sink full of warm, soapy water. I let it soak while I take a shower and thoroughly clean my groin. I also take the opportunity to trim pubic hair and shave those areas I prefer to keep smooth. Of course, this is a prime opportunity to do exactly what you’re not supposed to do while in chastity, so your keyholder may want to supervise this activity or even perform it for you. Once out of the shower and dried off, I use a non-abrasive sponge to scrub each component of the device, paying special attention to the interior of the tube.
If you know where to go, there’s a relatively large and vibrant array of resources on the internet for those interested in more information on the CB-6000 or chastity and orgasm denial in general.
- Edge of Vanilla
While Tom Allen prefers not to have his terrific blog lumped with the rest of us in the “chastity ghetto”, the fact remains that it’s an excellent resource for practical, real world information in addition to how chastity and orgasm denial can be integrated into one’s relationship. Plus, he’s a swell guy. I’ve learned a lot from him.
- Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed
Maymay’s blog is more about kink in general, but his Top Ten Tips for Long-Term Male Chastity Device Wear is full of great info.
- Chastity Forums
A reasonably well behaved group from around the world discussing the practical aspects of chastity.
From blogger Aarky, a comprehensive list of frequent chastity questions. I only wish I had found it sooner.
Fetlife bills itself as a “BDSM & fetish community for kinksters by kinksters”. There are several groups there dealing with chastity and orgasm denial. I find there to be a little more chaff and little less wheat than on the Male Chastity Forum, but it’s still a worthy source of information and advice from other chastity device wearers.
This UK-based online retailer of sex toys has a terrific amount of chastity-related content. From practical advice on choosing and living with the device to chastity photo essays, you will find a wealth of useful information. Plus, this is the site that originally introduced me to the concept of male chastity, so it’ll always have a special spot in my heart.
- Kink on Tap
Maymay and Sara’s podcast series included two episodes relevant to chastity and denial. Episode 6 – Sexual Teasing and Denial and Episode 7 – Tom Allen.
Original publication, 21 February 2009
Added safety warning and more resources, 24 February 2009
Added link to my homebrew PA cable, 3 April 2009
Updated info about PA cable and expanded section on clothing and concealment, 8 May 2009
Minor edit and corrections, 15 January 2010
Minor edits, including the mourning of Tickleberry, 11 October 2011
Restored links to the new Tickleberry site, 14 October 2012