New rules

In my last post, I pondered…

Now that the concept of “statistically always” has been shown to be achievable, I’m starting to wonder if annual unlock goals make sense. I’m thinking we should reverse the logic. Perhaps the agreement should be I will be expected to be locked 100% of the time and every hour (or fraction thereof) I’m out results in some kind of punishment. I have no idea what that punishment would be, but there’s something really appealing about switching to a 100% locked assumption with specific penalties for not being so.

This approach is, in a way, the logical conclusion of the gradual ratcheting down of her control over me, how I express myself sexually, and of course my orgasm. It’s a journey we’ve been on for many years now. If she was still interested in using the contents, we wouldn’t be here. But she’s not. She’s not because it’s useless as a means to her pleasure and letting me use it solely for mine takes me out of the headspace she wants me in. All it can do is give me a momentary jolt that I ultimately really don’t enjoy and totally wrecks my ability to maintain our dynamic.

So I wrote up the following ten rules to be imposed on me for her consideration…

1. You are to be locked in a male chastity device at all times.
2. You will be granted one 5 minute grace period every two weeks for hygiene that can’t be done while locked, device maintenance, or to change the device.
3. Hygiene, device maintenance, or device swap are the only permitted reasons to ever be unlocked.
4. During allowed 5 minute unlocked periods, you will do nothing to stimulate the contents such that an unlocked erection occurs and, should one occur on its own, you will in no way use that opportunity for self-pleasure.
5. Any unlocked time that exceeds the biweekly 5 minute grace period will be logged.
6. Every hour or fraction thereof of logged unlocked time will result in a punishment, regardless of the purpose or reason for the unlocked time.
7. You are not allowed to see the contents of your chastity device outside of the device.
8. Every instance of seeing the unlocked contents will result in a punishment.
9. Whether locked or unlocked, you are never to self-stimulate to orgasm.
10. Your keyholder can modify or suspend these rules at any time and as she sees fit to do so.

It’s not, as I said, anything like a new approach for us. It’s a slightly more severe version of how we’ve been living for the last 405 days since she last let me fuck her. And it was that event that pretty much solidified that the above is the new foundation for our relationship. It’s is a recognition of that reality. And for me, it actually provides a bit more sense of wellbeing. The fact that she just decided one morning that was going to fuck her really shattered what I thought was settled law between us. I consider this to be something of a new treaty. A spelling out of what she thinks is best.

She agrees there are only three reasons I ever need to be out and none of them are related to my pleasure. Any pleasure I can achieve through the contents, locked or not, is expressly forbidden. And we no longer have any “unlocked goal.” The goal is, in fact, zero. Never unlocked for more than five minutes every two weeks, maximum.

So, that’s that. According to rules one through nine, I’m never going to jack off again. Never going to fuck again. Never going to come again.

But rule ten. That’s for Belle. She would never agree to anything that limited her decisions and desires. This doesn’t work if she doesn’t have the ultimate final say on everything. We are not equal in this regard. I can’t impose terms on her. She imposes them on me, even if they’re my idea.

With regard to the punishments, that’s an open question. She’s not someone who is all that interested in active punishment. We’ll need to think on it. Maybe you have an idea. Drop them in the comments. But it also means I’m going to be incentivized to try and find ways to really minimize out time. At this point, the only thing that gets me out is the TSA. So maybe I’ll just roll the dice more often on that. Or, if I’m traveling with family other than Belle or coworkers, maybe I’ll take the device off after we arrive at the airport but before security. Basically, I’m going to be trying to keep my unlocked time to under an hour for the whole year.

My assumption is each hour of out time or fraction thereof, each time I see the contents as a penis, and any time I violate rules 4 or 9(!) are separate punishment opportunities, though we haven’t actually discussed that. Also, my assumption is these rules take affect tomorrow, June 1.

Over on Bluesky, I posted these and someone said it would be “disgusting” to only be unlocked for five minutes every two weeks for hygiene. As if hygiene doesn’t happen every time I’m in the shower. The only hygiene I do when out is shaving spots I can’t reach otherwise. That’s it. Having been circumcised, I don’t need much more than that. Coming up on eight years ago, I wrote that the best penis for chastity was one that was circumcised. It’s not required. Not at all. But if it’s uncircumcised, the hygiene needs would be very different. It’s kinda like being pierced. A PA makes chastity better but it can also be done very successfully without.

Anyway, being a dumbass and calling me “disgusting” on social media is the best and fastest way to get blocked by me. Just FYI.

As I said up top, this is how we’ve been living the last 405 days. If you take that one fuck out, it’s how we’ve been living for something like three years. But now it’s spelled out and clear between us. It’s as final and complete as it can be.

And that’s a good thing.