This is totally brilliant.
Based on Tom’s matrix, I’m a 8,7. I’d like to be higher in both scores, but I don’t know it’s that’s possible/practical especially since Belle still likes to feel the penis inside her.
Anyway, this thing needs to be the standard for how we talk about how chastity and denial are part of our lives. I love it.
Over the years, I keep getting sucked into discussions in which some person asks a question about “permanent” chastity, and the thread devolves into a mess in which most of the responses are about defining “permanent” and then arguing about whether someone’s ideas meet some arbitrary standards. The original question ends up being completely overlooked.
This is something that I’ve been thinking about for a while, but only recently had the light bulb blink on.
We all “know” what the term “permanent” means. Unfortunately, none of us can agree on it.
Because the conversation come up several times a month, and because everybody has their own variation on the definitions, I’m going to propose a matrix, similar to those political or religious ideology matrices that you see all over social media.
For you geeks, I’ve defined the two variables as: Chastity (i.e., the wearing of a device) and Denial (i.e…
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Denying Thumper 
I think that many people overlook that Chastity and Denial are two different but intertwined components of… whatever the hell it is that we do. Lots of guys are denied without a device, and lots of guys wear devices that get removed regularly. The whole thing falls under the umbrella of “erotic orgasm denial,” but if we try to talk about it as this one… thing, then we end up either not communicating, or we spend too much time trying to define what we mean or what we doz that we never end up having time for other aspects of discussion.