I happened upon yesterday’s post by Sarah on the topic of permanent orgasm denial. In it, she said (among other things) the following:

We are def­i­nitely lean­ing towards per­ma­nent orgasm denial, but we do have some con­cerns, none of which are to do with John miss­ing out on them (it’s really more about what I’ll per­haps miss out on, but that’s another story).

I think that neatly summarizes the issue for us, too. A lot of men assume that when they orgasm it is an experience all their own when in reality most women also seem to get a lot of enjoyment from the event. The ones that don’t are typically fictional (though I’m sure there are some real ones out there, too).

Honestly, this is something I didn’t really understand until I stopped having orgasms, but Belle likes it when I’m inside her and also, I’m pretty sure, likes it when I come there. My assumption had always been that women weren’t especially into the mess since it’s practically entirely up to them to clean it up afterward. Personally, back in the days when the occasional man would fuck my ass, I didn’t especially enjoy the aftereffects. I mean, there’s no place for it to go (and it didn’t really have much of a reason to be there) so it had to come out eventually and I just found the entire thing kinda gross. For the record, only three men got to do that without protection and only one of them was iffy, but that was like twenty-some years ago.

But anyway, as undeniably hot as the idea of never being allowed to come again is for me, I’m not sure I’d ever want it unless I was confident it was what Belle really wanted, too. Our recently concluded month of relative freedom was, I think, more about Belle pining for some old fashioned bunny loving more than anything else. I have no reason to expect her appreciation for that kind of sex will ever change, so I have no reason to expect she’ll ever really and truly end my orgasms.

Yesterday evening, as we laid in bed, I was curled up into her and craving her pussy. I pressed my hand to it through her pajamas and, with my face near her breasts, it was all I could do not rip her clothes off. She wasn’t having any of it, though, and told me she quite liked to see me miserably desperate. She also said I should expect the kind of sharp contrasts like I’m going through now in the future. Hard denial followed by relatively lavish releases. Nine times in one month. That probably doubled my entire output for the year.

So I went to sleep pretty horny. Interestingly, when the morning wood woke me up, it didn’t feel at all like someone had kicked me in the nuts. There was intense pressure from the tube, but I liked it. Instead of trying to get rid of it, I flexed the penis so it would be more intense and even rolled over on my stomach so blood would rush to the area. I didn’t expect to adjust so quickly. Next step will be sleeping through the wood. Once that happens, I’ll know things are back to normal. But I digress.

I guess what I’m getting at is that male chastity and orgasm denial might, on its surface, appear to be mostly about male orgasms. But it’s not. And as badly as I want to hear her say someday that I will never come again (and I do, really), there’s no way I could live with that situation unless something big and drastic changed with Belle and I knew for a fact that she would still be able to get whatever it is she wants from sex (even if that thing happens infrequently). There are many trade-offs in a relationship where the man doesn’t get to come, but in the end, asking her to ultimately sacrifice something so important to her is unacceptable to me.

10 thoughts on “Forever

  1. I actually adore the climax-y part of sex, for both of us. It is one of the main reason we don’t engage in more than a couple days of denial.

    Remember all the hoopla a while back about how semen contains mood-enhancing chemicals? I recall one particularly in Scientific American. Anyway,that may play a part in my preferences.

    My point with this comment though is to say, I am so glad you appreciate the fact that if she owns it she gets to decide what to do with it, including having it out to play when she sees fit.

    Good bunny.

  2. M. nodded agreement all the way through reading this post
    M. would be happy for me to remain all locked up for ever, as would I, then she gets horny, and thats the end of that for a night 🙂
    “get that thing off and F*ck me now”
    Time passes
    “right get that back on, and get me more chocolate”
    Repate every 7 to 10 days or so, the amout of ORG’s I give M. ( or or she gives herself )
    during that time seems to make no differance, its the “need” feel some boy juice inside.

  3. I don’t quite get permanent denial. I’m not saying it’s fiction only, just that it’s not for me. Perhaps it’s just my inexperience with chastity talking, but part of the fun of the whole process and not knowing when you’ll be allowed out or allowed to orgasm. The perpetual drive to be better and the emotional changes seem to be linked to the idea that “maybe if I’m a good boy, she’ll reward me with an orgasm”.

    If you are permanently denied, that mystery or trump card is gone, because you’ll always know what the answer is.

    That may work for some, but I’m not sure it’s up my alley.

    1. There’s always hope. 🙂

      I am permanently denied a Ferrari , due to being a lazy git, but it dosnt stop me
      Dreaming about having one… There so big and red and swallow, Damn… Wrong fantasy again

  4. I am in permanent orgasm denial at my wife’s request. There are many reasons why my wife gets more pleasure from denying me to include physically, prefernce and sexual orientation. I am not exaggerating when I say she laughs with pleasure every time she teases me and then denies me. We were,practicing orgasm denial a few months at a time. My wife made it know that if it was up to her, I would never have an orgasm again. I am the one who objected to that.

    After 2 years it was very obvious that my wife liked it better when I was denied orgasms. After a 4 month denial period she asked me if I loved her enough to give up my orgasms. I knew it was coming sooner than later because she found semen disgusting and penises unattractive. Yet she had powerful multiple orgasms with me, as long as no penetration was involved. She cums within 3 minutes from clitoral stimulation regardless of the gender of her partner. She would remind me that she had no need for my penis. My orgasm were out of love for me and she could live happily without them.

    How could I say no to her offer when she finally found a fetish that she loved and was not just going along to please me. I said yes and that is how we live now. It has been only 6 months but nether of us Moises my orgasm. My wife is have more orgasms with greater intensity than she has experienced before, despite being a senior citizen. Sex is more,frequent and she even had me buy a portable massage table since massages with a happy ending were her favorite things.

    Although I am familiar with Tantric sex, we just did what felt good and worked for us. I do massage her vagina often. We are happy again. I am one of the small percentage of men who get depressed after an orgasm. I also felt that since my wife led most of her adult life focusing on my pleasure, despitetrying to consider herself more, that it was only fair to live whatever,time we have left, focusing on her pleasure. So that is what we do. We have done BDSM for many years but not since we left our triad. My wife does not dominate me and hates the whole D/s thing. That was her girlfriend’s thing. She liked to sexually dominate me but it ended at the bedroom door.

    We lead a pretty normal life now except that I no longer have orgasms. At my age, that is not as hard as it would be for a young man. Every time I hear my wife’s vocal expression of pleasure at teasing and denying me, I know that I do love her enough to to give up my orgasms.

    1. The thing is, it has to be her choice. I would accept permanent orgasm denial if it was what she wanted (as with your wife). But it’s not, so I’ll still come occasionally. It’s a constant challenge for me to put what I want in that regard out of mind and allow her to do as she wants.

  5. Well that day came for me. We are in our late 60’s. Wife has not allowed PIV for the last 20years mostly due to her steady girlfriend’s request so we all only did oral and I had no advantage over her. They made up for it by playing with me in over 1,000 threesomes over our 46 years of marriage. When we moved away from my wife’s girlfriend my wife was no longer interest in sex with just a male, me. She only orgasms with her vibrator. That is how we got into chastity. Made weeks without any orgasms into a fun fetish game. Over the 6 years of 24/7 lock up my wife got me down to 2 orgasms year. She wanted permanent orgasm denial from day one but I would not agree to it. Told her if she stuck with chastity play for 5 years I would agree to no more orgasms. Figured she would not like having to tease me or have at least weekly sex with me. Turns out that she learned well from her girlfriend who sexually dominated me and loved teasing and denying me along with some S&M which her gf was into with me.

    This year she insisted on no more orgasms. I told her if I had no hope of an orgasm why would I be obedient to her and,allow the pain and humiliation. She saw my point and said we will call it indefinite orgasm denial,which could be for any number of years. We are,realist,and fetishest for over 40years. We play for real. There was one catch. My wife sometimes gets carried away during her orgasm and makes me cum. She bought some restraints that fit under the mattress so she can tie me spreadegaled on the bed. From then on edgings and ruined orgasms were not done during sex where my wife cums. For that I will remain locked and the focus will be solely on her pleasure. All teasing and ruined orgasms are with me restrained and she does not try to orgasm so,she can focus on teasing me. She did not want to do ruined orgasms anymore but we compromised that I will have a choice for one,each month for Prostate health and if I want it I have to eat my cum. I used to eat it after PIV anyway in the past so I agreed.

    Over our six years we have always added something to keep it interestingyears of training I do not,wish for an orgasm much. I have ED and my 1 1/4 inch cage is too big for my penis. Today she added a new twist. Something she never wanted to do before. She took a picture of me spread eagled in my cage with nipple clips to blackmail me should I ever want to quit chastity. My wife leans more towards girls for sex so this is it for me. She wants me orgasm free and I,said OK with a chance for one in the distant future.

  6. My partner says that she will not ever want or agree to permanent denial fo rme as that would reduce the options available to her. She prefers the term indefinite denial because it will always be possible I might come again one day or this afternoon or I might never again. The only way I will ever find out is to wait and see.

    I for reasons I can’t explain find this incredibly hot.

    For the time being at least I will have to make do with the very ocassional and extremly infrequent erections I am allowed to have. I crave erections now more than I do an orgasm. Its clever what she has accomplished here because although I hate this I love it too. As for the denial that just gets better and more hot everyday she retains control.

Say your piece

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s