Security wankie

As I said yesterday, the new Steelheart is only a little less secure than my CB6K. However, it is less secure, a fact only compounded by the total failure of the PA fixing that came with it. This reality has led me to rethink a few things regarding the entire purpose of the device.

Some guys look down their noses (or boners, as the case may be) at those of us who remain chaste though the use of devices. They say the only true way to demonstrate commitment to their partner is to always have access to their dicks but to never use them for anything their partners haven’t authorized, let alone ejaculation. I truly do appreciate this point of view and admire men who are able to muster the self-control necessary to keep their hands off in the face of incredible frustration. But I guess that assumes they are, in fact, keeping their hands off.

Personally, I don’t need the device to keep from having an unauthorized orgasm. The last thing I want is to orgasm (though I desperately want to always feel like I want to – paradox!). What I crave is lots and lots of stimulation. I love playing with myself up to the moment of orgasm, cooling off for a few seconds, and then doing it again. I adore the feeling of a stiff one in my hand, heavy PA ring flopping to and fro. Even with it’s not hard, I find I can’t keep my hands off the cock. It’s like a magnet to me. So, based on all that, what the device represents is Belle’s desire to limit my ability to pleasure myself. She knows I will not come on purpose. But she also knows, from experience, that allowing me to play with the cock is a recipe for disaster.

So, the device isn’t about orgasm control. It’s a masturbation and self-pleasure control mechanism. When she puts me in it, she’s saying she wants me to focus on her and her needs. Jacking off in the shower, even if I don’t come, is distracting and indulgent. Stroking in bed after she’s fallen asleep does not leave me in the same frame of mind as when I’m just left to stew in my juices. Those guys who liken my device to a crutch are right, I guess. It’s a deterrent. A reminder of what she wants. And I need it.

My quest for the undefeatable device is more about nerdery and kink than anything else. I want to feel totally powerless against the device, but don’t actually need to be powerless. For me, it’s more like a “keep off the grass” sign or little wrought iron fence around a flowerbed. A reminder that there are rules and I’m expected to play by them.

10 thoughts on “Security wankie

  1. Some guys look down their noses […] at those of us who remain chaste though the use of devices.

    And some guys are self-righteous idiots.
    One of the reasons that I wear a device is that Mrs. Edge, herself, finds it incredibly hot. Interestingly, she and I find it hot for the same reason: that I don’t need to “demonstrate commitment”, but instead, it turns over the power to her no matter what I happen to want.

    For some reason, the One Twue Wayers® seem to miss that there are other paths.

  2. I have a Steelheart with the standard hole opening but no PA (yet!) which is partly escapable (balls remain trapped though) – you may remember I had the internal ring attachment modified to hook on to the locking pin to counteract that. But I noticed you had asked Dietmar for a slot opening rather than the hole, which is what I thought I would do if/when I get a PA. Then is it not just a case of allowing the ring to protrude through the slot and then attaching one of those plastic security tags. With the integral lock at the top as well, that *should* be inescapable.

  3. But I noticed you had asked Dietmar for a slot opening rather than the hole…

    Originally, I thought of doing that with the idea of moving the slot up higher and using the PA cable with less pulling. However, the more I thought about it the more I realized the closed-off, no peaking look was hotter (plus, I figured the internal PA fixing would do the trick).

    Are there pictures of your modification anywhere? I’m having a hard time picturing it.

  4. No pictures, but it’s basically the ring, third up from the bottom of Dietmar’s “CB extras” page, with a smaller steel loop fixed to the top. Works much the same way as a KSD-G2 for a CBxxxx but doesn’t fit as snugly in to the tube. Works pretty well but takes a bit longer to put on/take off and needs a bit of lube.

  5. Thumper,

    I have been reading your blog for awhile now and I find that your thoughts parallel mine in a lot of ways. My wife of twenty years and I have been in the chastity lifestyle for nearly five years now and she really enjoys the benefits. She has had me locked in the Steelheart now for the last three years, I am locked in it for weeks at a time. As far as cleaning I find putting soap and water in the tube and work in in and out to sups it up then use the hand held shower head to rinse it all out works well for me. Then once I am out I boil the device to really clean it up. As for security may I suggest you go to a jeweler and have them make you a small chain with two closed loops on each end. These loops are small enough to go though the hole in the end of your tube, but large enough for one to go around your piecing jewelry and the other end go over one of the side alignment pins of your Steelheart. Basically the chain in installed on the end of your piercing ring and the chain goes down inside the tube out though the hole outside and up to the alignment pin. The chain will be long enough to allow your member to move up and down the tube freely but short enough not to allow pull out. The last idea I have relates to comfort. You wrote that the lock digs into your flesh, what I did is purchase several youth wrist sweat bands and after I shower each morning I put a little water based hand lotion in the tube then put on one of the sweat bands around the CB at the base to cover the locking area between the ring and the flesh, this acts as a cushion and it also helps when you catch it in tight fitting clothes just right and pinch the device. Just my thoughts of the day.

    Wally

  6. As far as cleaning I find putting soap and water in the tube and work it in and out to suds it up then use the hand held shower head to rinse it all out works well for me.

    That’s *exactly* what I did yesterday! It worked pretty well.

    As for security may I suggest you go to a jeweler and have them make you a small chain with two closed loops on each end.

    Hmm. You’ve given me an idea on how I can use some of the leftover PA cable stuff I have laying around…

    You wrote that the lock digs into your flesh, what I did is purchase several youth wrist sweat bands…

    I’ve started putting a short length of electric tape over the sharp bits each morning. Once she lets me out of it, I’m going to try the Dremel.

    Just my thoughts of the day.

    Thanks for passing them along! Also, glad you decided to stop lurking!

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